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Women Leaders are the present and future; we do the hard things better. Most female leaders are of greater value than they believe, and that is the main issue. On this podcast we aim to look at where women leaders are stuck under their own thumb. By digging into the obstacles, the stories, the current trajectory, progress, and more, my goal is to bring it to the forefront of transformation. Society, the patriarchy and don’t forget the matriarchy, have been dictating the descriptive and prescriptive bias for centuries; unfortunately it is internalized for most female leaders. Whether they consciously pay attention to their mindset or not,the background noise limits them in their goals. It is time for a change, where not only the inherent value of a female leader is elevated in discussion, but that it becomes intrinsic. Self-doubt, comparison, competition, judgment and communication that never breaks the surface are at a tipping point of standing in the way of progress that could reshape this world. Join me for some action-packed episodes where you can learn tips for change in my solo episodes and listen in to some interesting conversations about changing female leaders trajectory from the inside out.
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Wednesday Nov 23, 2022
#18 Emotions as a Leader: Stop Trying To Control Them and Learn How To Use Them
Wednesday Nov 23, 2022
Wednesday Nov 23, 2022
Whether you want to admit it or not, emotions always play a part in decision-making. We are whole humans, not some mass of intellectual cells, so you can try to hide or control your emotions (good luck), or you can use them to your advantage. Being friends with your emotions makes you unshakeable; not being friends with them makes you hollow because there is nothing substantial to ground you.
In this episode we’ll look at how emotions can be valuable sign posts for directing your decisions, and how to lean into them (it starts with trust). Disconnecting from your feelings can steer you towards fear and scarcity, which is not a good foundation for effective, empowered decision-making. Cultivate emotional intelligence and you just might be unstoppable.
Monday Nov 14, 2022
#17 Do I Need To Recognize Being a Female Leader in a Patriarchal Society?
Monday Nov 14, 2022
Monday Nov 14, 2022
Monday Nov 14, 2022
#16 I’m Not Greedy! I Just Want What’s Fair
Monday Nov 14, 2022
Monday Nov 14, 2022
When it comes to what you earn, have you held yourself back for fear of appearing greedy? It’s easy to impose limits on yourself when you’re afraid of stepping on someone else’s toes, or when you think others feel slighted while you’re living high on the hog. It’s easy to question your worth when someone pays you what you deserve (or more)... but how does it serve you?
In this episode we’ll talk about this fear of appearing greedy, and challenge the idea there’s not enough to go around. You can play small, but the cost is ultimately your success and wellbeing. A scarcity mindset will always keep you settling for less. When you feel that sense of restraint inside, step through it. Abundance is available to those who believe it exists.
Tuesday Oct 18, 2022
#15 Are You Too Emotional as a Leader?
Tuesday Oct 18, 2022
Tuesday Oct 18, 2022
I think it’s pretty ridiculous that society suggests showing emotion is a sign of weakness. I believe it’s actually courageous because it tells others you are comfortable and confident in who you are. I mean we’re humans, afterall, not robots. But let’s be clear: I’m not talking about temper tantrums or uncontrolled outbursts. That’s something entirely different. I’m talking about being emotive because you are connected to your feelings.
Knowing your emotions taps into your intuition and can help with decision-making when you feel stuck or confused. It also helps with relatability, openness and confidence. So how do you use your authentic emotions to maximize your success as a leader? That’s what we cover in this episode. We’ll look at what drives you to mask your emotions—is it fear of appearing weak, people not liking you, losing control? Connecting with your emotions is empowering, and it can actually grow your confidence as a leader.
Friday Oct 07, 2022
#14 The Myth of Ease in Leadership
Friday Oct 07, 2022
Friday Oct 07, 2022
When you hear the word “ease,” do you think of a lazy person who is not on their toes? Or do you think it’s a pot of gold at the end of a hard-working, problem-solving rainbow? What if I told you ease is a mindset? It’s not about what’s happening externally; it’s about presence and feeling worthy of having it.
Working like crazy and trying to solve problems before they even show up will have you running around with your hair on fire. Instead of lifting 1,000 lbs daily, try lifting just enough to keep growing your value moving toward ease. In this episode we’ll look at the challenges you think you need to face, and where you can let go, because your worth is not determined by your ability to slay dragons. Ease is available and it will make you a stronger leader.
Tuesday Oct 04, 2022
#13 Chasing Specialness and Other Forms of Validation
Tuesday Oct 04, 2022
Tuesday Oct 04, 2022
We’re living in a “specialness” epidemic; the desire for attention, respect, even adoration. It can lead us down a career path just to find it. Being seen as special isn’t just a goal, it’s a need, but it’s not an intrinsically motivated one. It’s driven by what you believe “special” means to other people, and it comes from a place of lack. Even being near special people can make you feel like you’ve joined the club. But no matter how much you seek it, you never actually feel it. Special becomes elusive, which makes you want it even more.
But what if you didn’t need to exhibit special to feel special? Chasing what we think is meaningful to others is exhausting and it doesn’t equal success. In this episode I’ll ask some questions about what you’re really looking for, why you need it and how it makes you feel. The essence of who you are, not what you do or achieve, is what makes you special. It emanates from within.
Thursday Sep 22, 2022
#12 Inner Bias as a Leader and How To Dissolve It!
Thursday Sep 22, 2022
Thursday Sep 22, 2022
We humans love to judge, and there are two different biases we hold: descriptive and prescriptive. In this episode we’ll be looking at prescriptive bias and how women are expected to behave as leaders (good lord do people have opinions!). When women don’t act according to their prescribed role—kind, warm, gentle, caring, submissive—they can be punished. And it’s not just men who carry this bias, women do too. Being a decisive or direct female leader shouldn’t be a bad thing, but these biases can feel like being trapped in a box.
So how do you combat them? First by knowing they exist, and second by catching your own. Notice when you make comments about other women not “acting” properly. And when you hear that internal voice saying you should’ve been kinder or less aggressive, realize that’s probably your inner bias talking. We can’t change how other people think and behave, but we can act in alignment with who we are, instead of who society tells us to be.
Thursday Sep 08, 2022
#11 You Don’t Want to Admit It: You’re Overwhelmed and Want to Bolt
Thursday Sep 08, 2022
Thursday Sep 08, 2022
As a female leader, overwhelm is probably not foreign to you. The mountain feels too high to climb, yet you feel pressure to get to the summit—pressure from others, but also from yourself. And the dictator in your head says you can’t do it; you’re incompetent; you’re an imposter. You want to slump down and cry in a corner, but if the leader is cracking, who’s in charge? So instead, you fantasize about escaping to a desert island or taking a low-level job that requires no leadership skills at all.
Even if you have multiple degrees and lead a Fortune 500 company, fear and low self-worth are probably in the driver's seat. Perhaps you’re afraid of looking at who you are and how you feel on a deeper level. You just hope that achieving the success you want will give you the freedom you feel you lack, so you keep pushing the boulder up the hill and exhausting yourself. But you can wait your entire career for external validation, or you can look at how YOU make it hard for yourself. So I challenge you to try something new: acknowledge your feelings and look at what you fear. Even if you hide your fear-based mindset really well, it’s still operating, and it’s what you’re actually trying to escape from.
Thursday Aug 18, 2022
#10 You are Amazing, Strong and Courageous Every Time You Fall Off the Horse
Thursday Aug 18, 2022
Thursday Aug 18, 2022
You could have raised yourself.
You did not want to raise yourself, but it seemed the most logical step in what you needed to do to make it through childhood. Very few people understood you, although you might not have let on to it. In fact, with those few who understood you—they have been able to get the closest to you and that may not be very close at all.
You are ferocious, voracious and fierce…..but there is a part of you inside that is disconnected and does not feel your worth. YOU THINK YOUR WORTH THROUGH THESE ABILITIES TO GET BACK UP AND GO!
The persona you have at work as the inferno fighting kick ass boss may have fans but people are intimidated by you. And you may prefer it that way.
But who is really in your corner? The people who say it? Nope…perhaps the people who act like it, as long as they are not doing it for just their benefit. The goal for you is to keep on fighting to either stay at the top or get there. You want that 360 view, and so when life throws you curveballs with your health, a break-up, death, destruction or even loss of clients in a major way as to seriously affect or zero out your revenue and cause you to have to get up by the bootstraps AGAIN.
You will eventually burnout and not give a shit.
You will eventually hit the wall where if you have not already questioned what drives you and why?
You will alienate others, even people you do not want to but your choices will isolate you, since you are so used to the role you play with donning your cape and making shit happen.
You may believe it is the only way to be and stay successful, but it is not. Far from it.
You do not need to be a superhero. You can bring a bit of something else to what you do, because YOU are not a one dimensional human being.
Thursday Aug 11, 2022
#9 Forget The Story of You Cannot, Because You Can!
Thursday Aug 11, 2022
Thursday Aug 11, 2022
Who’s the good girl and who’s the bad? I was always bad and tried to be good. I just did not fit in with the idea of good although, I was not out in the world doing bad things 24/7. I just questioned authority. I questioned the status quo and at times I felt I could do a better job at my work or in saving the world than others. You too? Cool you’re in the right place!
You may have felt this way, and yet there is a part of you waiting to be proven wrong. Not the mature adult you, but that old part that was conditioned to “girls need to fit in and take care of others first.” Among so many other messages that did not serve you.
The obstacles you place in your way start with you having to be the leader—yes you…if you were like me you were president of all your childhood clubs, you were inventing clubs for people to belong to…you were director and lead actress of all your plays as a little kid and so on….I always had to be in control but who knew then what my trajectory was going to be?
I did.
I marched to my own band. I also saw things from a different perspective, as many female leaders do. The issue only became an issue when I had to get others on my team to get as excited about things, that is when I started to sacrifice myself and say sorry, or worry I was wrong or bad, because someone disagreed with how I did my job or ran my business. Yes, always waiting to be found out but let me apologize in the meantime.
Are you tired of being portrayed as fragile or the damsel in distress? Is it a role you feel the need to fight against in life and work? Yes, there are probably patriarchal rules you were taught, but you are the one who decides whether or not to follow them. When you focus on obstacles, you repeat history instead of forging your own path.
Fighting against perceived obstacles is a choice, and that’s what we’re talking about in this episode. Sure you can get pissed and curse a system that doesn’t support strong women, but that just perpetuates struggle. Instead, why not hang up your gloves and direct that energy inwards, letting your intrinsic motivation lead you? That is the source of true inspiration. By valuing yourself you can make empowered decisions that are aligned with your goals—not ones based on sacrifice, struggle or pain.